Toby Keith – “Cryin’ For Me (Wayman’s Song)”

Sam Gazdziak | October 28th, 2009

Songwriter: Toby Keith

Before his life was cut short by cancer at age 44, Wayman Tisdale had made a name for himself in two pretty diverse fields: professional basketball and jazz. He’d also been a long-time friend of Toby Keith, who sang a song on Tisdale’s last album and wrote this song days after Tisdale’s death this past May.

Several of Tisdale’s friends and band mates are on the record, most notably Dave Koz on the saxophone. Appropriately enough, the song has a smooth jazz-meets-Nashville feel, though the sax tips the scales into easy listening. The real existential question this song presents is, “Can you write a song that’s too depressing even for country music?”

I realize that we’re talking about country music here, which has a long tradition of heartbreak, misery and sad times. There have been plenty of superlative songs about the death of a loved one–Vince Gill’s “Go Rest High On That Mountain” and Guy Clark’s “The Randall Knife,” to name a couple. Those songs take on death and loss frankly, but they have a cathartic moment, and the singer by the end has moved on to acceptance.

With “Cryin’ For Me,” we’re still solidly in the grief stage. The first thing we hear is Tisdale’s outgoing voice mail message, so the song starts off on a somber, slightly morbid note and ends with Keith still crying for himself over losing a cherished friend.

I like the personal touches in the song, where Keith mentions Tisdale’s left-handed bass playing and refers to him as “Superstar.” Maybe if the song were more about those personal touches and less about Keith crying for himself, it wouldn’t seem as dreary. Yes, Tisdale has only been gone for a few months, so the hurt is still understandably fresh. But right now, there are two songs about suicide being played on the radio, and neither of them are as depressing as this one.

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  1. Leeann Ward
    October 28, 2009 at 1:29 pm

    I applaud the darkness.

  2. sam (but not the one who wrote the review)
    October 28, 2009 at 1:38 pm

    I like the song, but the shirt Toby is wearing in that picture deserves three thumbs down.

  3. Noah Eaton
    October 28, 2009 at 1:44 pm

    “Yes, Tisdale has only been gone for a few months, so the hurt is still understandably fresh.”

    Well, there you go. It is utterly understandable that Keith was writing and singing from a very somber place at the time given how abrupt his passing was and how he proceeded to compose this song in little time afterward.

    Your point may be well-taken, but one can’t expect to wheel through the whole five-step grieving process in several days. And I think some anthems are truly meant to reflect just one individual stage of that process, with “Cryin’ For Me” being the “depression” stage…………and it’s a very fine example at that.

    I respectfully disagree with this review and am giving this single a “Thumbs Up”……….and that is coming from someone here who used to root more often against a Toby Keith single than for it. I think he’s really grown these past two album eras and now find myself liking his output more than disliking it (I disliked the title track).

  4. Leeann Ward
    October 28, 2009 at 1:51 pm

    While I disagree with your reasoning for the thumbs down, I will say that the sax is a little much for me. It’s more Kenny G than tasteful.

  5. Jeff
    October 28, 2009 at 2:13 pm

    Good song!

  6. Mayor Jobob
    October 28, 2009 at 2:23 pm

    I like it! It’s got kind of a jazzy feel and the way he sings it reminds me of songs from Pull My Chain or How do You like Me now.

  7. Thomas
    October 28, 2009 at 2:24 pm

    when personal feelings are as publicly expressed like in a song, there’s nothing wrong with reviewing the result. however, to express the verdict with a thumbs up or down strikes me as not being the most tactful approach to this personal and beautiful executed “tackling grief” exercise.

  8. tydance
    October 28, 2009 at 2:28 pm

    I’m sorry, but how often when you lose a loved one do you wish to hear that voice again? Actually the playing of Wayman Tisdale’s recording is a celebration of the man and how he lived his life…always a kind word. Yes, Toby Keith was grieving when he wrote this song, but he loved his friend and you can hear it in the words and how he sings the song. I do agree with you in the sense that I love the jazzy feel of “Cryin’ for Me”, but not in your interpretation of the song, its definitely not morbid.

  9. Jim Malec
    October 28, 2009 at 2:32 pm

    I think the review is really on-point and well written. A thumbs down review reflects the execution of a given song from the perspective that it is all at once a piece of art, a piece of craft and a commercial enterprise. In Sam’s well-stated opinion, the song is poorly executed. That’s not a judgment on Keith’s feelings, it’s a judgment on the way in which Keith used those to draw a piece of art that he’s now marketing to a public audience. Even art based on the most personal and heartfelt of subjects deserves to be discussed and criticized. Sam may be right or Sam may be wrong, but he raises valid points and he does so in an honest but tactful manner.

  10. Drew
    October 28, 2009 at 2:41 pm

    The “review” portion of this is actually only a couple sentences… very few of it even touches on Keith’s song and the goods and bads of it, so it would’ve been nicer to see something more in-depth.

  11. Thomas
    October 28, 2009 at 2:55 pm

    would anyone have asked for the thumbs verdict in this case if sam had just “forgotten” it?

  12. Ruth
    October 28, 2009 at 6:44 pm

    Everyone is entitled to an opinion. And mine is unfortunately there are sad things that happen in life and Cryin’ for Me expresses things I think we have all felt when losing a loved one. And isn’t that who we are really crying for—ME. And its hard to imagine more beautiful lyrics and music. I think it is a wonderful tribute to a great friend.

  13. Nicolas
    October 28, 2009 at 6:48 pm

    @Drew: Agreed

  14. PaulaW
    October 28, 2009 at 7:00 pm

    I’m not typically a TK fan, but I listened to this song for all the reasons that reviewer listed not to listen to it. And I like it. A lot. The only line that caught my attn was the second line “a tear I cannot find” … sounded a bit forced, just to get to the rhyme. But by the end of the song that little slip had been more than compensated for.

    And like Ruth says …… after a death , any death, who are we really crying for …. ourselves. I didnt know Mr Tisdale, but that doesnt stop me from feeling the way Toby does about Mr Tisdale about my own loved ones.

    This is a good song. A very good song.

  15. Steve M.
    October 28, 2009 at 7:11 pm

    Not a big fan of the song, but I will give Toby Keith credit-this is a far cry from “She’s a Hottie.” At least he experiments, and not just with Willie on the bus.

  16. Rick
    October 28, 2009 at 7:21 pm

    I’d much rather hear a smooth jazz influence on Top 40 country radio these days than more of the bombastic 80’s hair metal approach, except for any Kenny G. linkage as noted previously. I wonder if this means I will be able to request this song on Brian McKnight’s morning radio show out here in L.A. on our yuppie jazz station “The Wave” 94.7 FM? Hmm…

  17. Sam G.
    October 28, 2009 at 7:59 pm

    “would anyone have asked for the thumbs verdict in this case if sam had just “forgotten” it?”

    And have this be the only single review on The 9513 without a rating? Would you say the same thing if I raved about it?

    Believe me, I get why the song is the way it is. I can empathize with what he was feeling when he wrote the song, but that doesn’t mean that I’m going to necessarily like the result.

  18. Trent
    October 28, 2009 at 9:05 pm

    I disagree with the idea that this song is morbid. I think TK did a masterful job on this song. Also, justout of curiosity what is the second song about suicide that you referenced? I got “Why” by Rascal Flatts. What is the other?

  19. Thomas
    October 29, 2009 at 8:26 am

    @ sam g.

    yes, i’d say the same if you raved about it. also, i have no problem with the verbal content of your review nor with your opinion. still, omitting the thumb-symbol for once would not have diminished the review – quite on the contrary, actually.

  20. Stewman
    October 29, 2009 at 9:02 am

    On a side note, Did anyone catch TK talking to Suzanne Alexander on GAC about this song? He could barely keep his eyes open, and seemed out of it. Hopefully it was just fatigue because the big man looked shot

  21. Brenda
    October 29, 2009 at 11:46 am

    I love everything about the song. The hard truth isn’t always pretty, the honesty of the song speaks volumes as the ones left behind are the ones left hurting and missing. The smooth jazz is very fitting. It must have been a very difficult song to write, I am thankful he is sharing it with so many of us that couldn’t put our selfish feelings to music.

  22. Jaime
    October 29, 2009 at 6:10 pm

    By far the best Toby song I’ve heard in a while. Scratch that–that isn’t saying much. I’ll just say that I like it a lot.

  23. Lucas
    October 30, 2009 at 11:04 am

    I have to completely disagree with this review.

    The production on this track is near-perfect. The song is great. I love the guitar in it, simplistic but it has a great groove. The voicemail was a nice touch.

  24. Holly
    October 30, 2009 at 9:10 pm

    Please, you are either an idiot or you have never lost anyone close to you! This song encompasses exactly what happens to a person when they loose someonet they truly care for! Toby did an excellent job and he conected emotionally with anyone who has ever lost someone in their lives! Every song Toby writes gets better and better, sounds like you just have no heart! Toby did a great job with this song! It’s one of his best jmo.

  25. rockerbillie
    November 2, 2009 at 9:44 am

    Toby’s music is always honest. This is a heartfelt song for his friend Wayman. It is beautiful. The video is now up on CMT.com

    It is a wonderful tribute to Wayman Tisdale.

  26. Steve M.
    November 2, 2009 at 10:06 am

    I would hope not that all of Keith’s music is honest. Otherwise, is he advocating having affairs south of the border?

  27. Kyle Bird
    November 2, 2009 at 10:13 am

    Sam Gazdziak maybe you should actually listen to the songs meaning instead of being afraid of something being a little bit sad it is a great tribute Toby Keith did for one of his good friends and deserves a thumbs up

  28. stormy
    November 2, 2009 at 10:14 am

    My problem with this song is Todd Snider. Waco Moon ruined me for all other dead friend songs. This song isn’t bad its just not Waco Moon.

  29. Jon
    November 3, 2009 at 7:38 pm

    Hey.

    I frequent this site, well, frequently, and I usually agree (more or less) with the reviews, but this is the first (and probably last time) time for me to leave a comment. And, possibly for the first time, I completely disagree with the overall tone of a review on the 9513.

    Frankly, Sam, sir, you have no soul.

    This song is not just better than most of the songs on the radio these days; it’s better than most of the “Thumbs up” on this website.

    And I think that a lot of people agree with me.

    “Can you write a song that’s too depressing…for country music?”

    I doubt it.

    And if “you” could, I’d be more likely to say “He Stopped Loving Her Today” or “I’m So Lonesome I Could Cry” or any number of tracks from Jamie Johnson’s latest CD, but not “Cryin’ for Me.” Definitely not.

    This is America. You are entitled with your opinion. But I am also entitled to mine. And I am of the opinion that this is a devastatingly gorgeous, deeply affecting song–a song about losing a loved one that is more potent than even Montgomery Gentry’s “Clouds” or George Strait’s “Living for the Night.” It’s just beautiful.

    I guess we’ll just have to agree to disagree on this one.

  30. Lisa
    November 4, 2009 at 11:13 am

    This is a very touching song and a wonderful tribute to a very special friend in his life. Each of us can only hope that someone will feel these feelings for us once we are gone. Not that we want our loved ones to hurt, but for the affirmation that we are truly loved. If you have ever lost anyone, you know this is how you feel and it is nice that Toby can put the true feelings in words.

    I do like the saxophone and think it is “so right” since it is from his band mates and friends.

    I just think everyone is not used to hearing this type of song from Toby; but that does not make it a thumbs down song.

    Toby, I hope you pain will ease soon!

  31. Edie
    November 4, 2009 at 5:49 pm

    Absolutely a great song. Love the sax! A song written for a friend is felt in your heart.

  32. stevie
    November 4, 2009 at 10:39 pm

    i heard this song for the first time today and it made me think of my best friend who passed away in june. i just started crying. its an amazing song!!!

  33. Rosa Mortimer Tx
    November 5, 2009 at 6:26 am

    I personally like this song! the fact that toby is singing to his friend & saying that he is still crying for him is beautiful. You have to understand that yes the song is sad and still makes me tear up when i hear it but these are his feeling and his way of grieving. So again I personally LOVE this song regaurdless if its sad or morbid as you (the writer) put it.

    Rosa Mortimer
    Houston Tx

  34. Michael
    November 5, 2009 at 9:00 am

    I bet you if the song was for a white man it would of had a thumbs up

  35. Alli
    November 7, 2009 at 12:06 am

    Wow! Amazing! This song made me think of all the loved ones I have lost! What a great tribute this song is! I give it a million thumbs up!

  36. Liz
    November 7, 2009 at 8:54 am

    I enjoyed the song and video. Nicely done!

  37. Joni
    November 7, 2009 at 8:15 pm

    Reviews are just someone’s personal opinion. Obviously this reviewer doesn’t care for the song. I like the song a lot and Toby Keith was expressing his feelings when he wrote it. He certainly has a right to do that as a song writer. You either like it or you don’t. Just leave it at that.

  38. sam (sam)
    November 7, 2009 at 8:57 pm

    Why should we say, “You either like it or you don’t. Just leave it at that?” I don’t want to know only why certain reviewers like or don’t like a song, I want to know why they like or don’t like a song.

    If we “just leave it at that” we severely diminish the opportunity for meaningful communication amongst ourselves, and with it the chance to learn and grow from each other. That doesn’t sound like a good idea to me at all.

  39. Leeann Ward
    November 7, 2009 at 10:20 pm

    Michael, That’s ridiculous on more than one level.

  40. Lori
    November 10, 2009 at 11:23 am

    I love this song and I love Toby singing it. Coming from a person who has personally lost someone very close to me in my life it strikes a chord and I find myself listening to it over and over because it rings so true for me.

  41. antoinette - New Jersey
    November 10, 2009 at 1:25 pm

    What a wonderful tribute Toby Keith has bestowed on his friend. Wayman Tisdale is now immortalized not only through a life well lived, but through this song as well.
    True Toby Keith, honoring what’s good in life, friendship – pure and simple.

    Great job Toby – WT will always live in your heart.

  42. Eleanor
    November 12, 2009 at 6:15 am

    Everyone should be so fortunate to have a friendship so close it inspires a beautiful song. My Mother passed in January of this year, and Toby could not have expressed my feelings for her any better than he did.
    Thanks, Toby, for a wonderful tribute to an obviously amazing friend.

  43. Kara
    November 16, 2009 at 11:10 am

    I hope this song makes #1 on the charts to shove it in Sam Gazgziak’s face, who has obviously never lost anyone close to him. This song is amazing and so it Toby’s song writing abilities to bring out that much emotion in people

  44. Chris N.
    November 16, 2009 at 1:13 pm

    If you don’t like this song, you hate everyone who ever died!

  45. Steve M.
    November 16, 2009 at 1:21 pm

    Well I do Adolf Hitler, John Wilkes Booth and the inventor of the designated hitter.

  46. Steve M.
    November 16, 2009 at 1:22 pm

    I mean I do hate. I need stop posting after 8 hours at work.

  47. PineapplePrincess
    November 16, 2009 at 3:25 pm

    Depressing!?!!? And, so what if Toby Keith is still “solidly in the grief stage”, as you think?!?! I can’t think of another song that I have EVER heard that is more touching than this–o.k., “Blind Man in the Bleachers”, but that was not based on a true relationship! EVERYTHING about this song AND the video is perfect, including the voicemail at the start. An awesome tribute to his friend! A song that will help many people through their grieving.

  48. Con
    November 17, 2009 at 12:53 am

    I love both the song and the video. He does not have to be upbeat all the time. He has feelings and I think it was great of him to share them with the world. There is nothing wrong with someone who cares for others. Beautiful..

  49. Kathy
    November 17, 2009 at 2:52 pm

    I think the song can be looked at in both ways but I see it as a celebration of Waymans life. What a tribute that he left such an impression on Toby’s life and millions of others that he wrote about it. I say thumbs up for the dedication to his legacy.

  50. Chris N.
    November 17, 2009 at 3:14 pm

    OK, but I still don’t like smooth-jazz saxophone in any context.

  51. Sam G.
    November 17, 2009 at 8:10 pm

    “Knoxville Girl,” now THERE’S a happy song about death I can totally get behind. Puts a smile on my face every time.

  52. rick
    November 18, 2009 at 5:58 am

    One thing I love about Toby Keith, he does and sings what he feels is right. I suspect the marketplace with be the true determinant of whether this song is too depressing – even for country music.

  53. Lynn
    November 20, 2009 at 7:25 am

    I love the song, Never been a big fan of TK, this song however touched me deeply. Five years ago I lost my 46 year old husband suddenly to a heart attack. Thanks Toby for putting in words the initial self absorbed stage of sorrow.

  54. Karen Criss
    November 20, 2009 at 6:09 pm

    I, too,have lost a friend this week and this song is hitting really close to home. I love the line “he taught me how I’m supposed to live, now he’s taught me how to die”. I would have had this played in tribute at her funeral if I could have gotten a copy of it and some video of my friend to go with it. Thanks Toby for helping me greive.

  55. Sadie
    November 25, 2009 at 12:26 pm

    I totally totally disagree about your rewiew. I love this song. Yes it’s sad that’s because when he wrote it he was in mourning. If one of my friends died I wish I could them a song respectful as this one. I think this is one of Toby’s best songs. So please consider rewriting your rewiew. Thank you.

  56. Taylor
    November 25, 2009 at 12:42 pm

    This song has touched my heart in so many ways. You see I’m only 12 years old. But this summer one of my closest friends was hurt VERY BADLY on a trampaline. She was flown to Vanderbuilt Childrens Medical Center. I have never cryed so much in my life. Of course we went down the hospital even though it was a good 3 hour drive. When we arrived she had been there about thirty minutes and was in a scan for head injury’s. Well when you think nothing can get worse it did. She had to fractors to the skull and a brain blead. But thanks to god she made it. The first thing I thought of when i heard this song was her. I can’t imagine wat Toby was going though. And I’m sure he’s still not over it. I can’t imagine if my friend wouldn’t have made it.

  57. Sid
    November 29, 2009 at 4:15 pm

    How can you say that its too depressing for country music. Its songs like this one that helps people get through losses. You don’t like it because Toby is “feeling sorry” for himself in the song, well, that’s what happens when you lose someone. I think its a great song. Really makes you think and remember those that we have lost. Too depressing for country, really?? Then Alan Jackson’s Monday Morning Church Sissy’s Song is too depressing, Gary Allan has a few that might get you all sensitive too. And there’s Blackhawks Ships of Heaven, and a few others are out there that you may not like cause it may bring a tear to your eye. Go listen to Backstreet Boys if you want something that makes you happy. Great song, great tribute.

  58. Sheep
    November 29, 2009 at 8:15 pm

    I’m not a big fan of Toby, but I must say that this is a great piece of music. I think it deserves a clear thumbs up, but I guess I can see your reasoning behind the thumbs down.

  59. B Wood
    November 30, 2009 at 5:33 am

    This song is very touching. The comments that have been posted about Toby Keith focusing on himself are untrue. The song means his friend has went to be with the Lord..so we need not feel sorry for him. He is in a place we all want to be. But Toby is still here on earth missing his friend, not feeling sorry for himself, just feeling the void his friend left. Its such a shame there are always people critisizing others. Beautiful song, well done.

  60. John
    November 30, 2009 at 11:39 pm

    ok i disagree with this report. but toby lost a dear friend so how can you give it a thumbs down? he doesn’t want to cry for his friend becasue his friend is now with god. toby is cryin’ becasue he lost that friend. so why disagree about him not cryin for his friend for gonig to heaven? i give this 9513 thumbs up!

  61. Jonn
    December 1, 2009 at 10:44 pm

    I AGREE WITH b wood. amen

  62. kelly
    December 2, 2009 at 9:43 am

    All I can say is what a beautiful song, and what a wonderful tribute to someone he obviously must have been close to. I know I have lost two very important people in my life and I find myself watching old home movies not really to see their picture because I will never forget what they look like but just to hear the sound of there voice really just helps me feel close to them again, I know that sounds strange but it does. I don’t know how anyone can give this song a review good or bad, just for the simple fact that it seems more like a loving letter to a lost friend and how can you review something so personal. The only thing I can say is again what a beautiful song.

  63. marg
    December 4, 2009 at 9:19 am

    I loved this song, and I’ve never HEARD of Wayman Tisdale!

  64. Shelly
    December 4, 2009 at 10:33 am

    What a sad song. I feel Toby’s love for his friend. It’s a great song.

  65. Michelle
    December 4, 2009 at 11:00 am

    This is a great song. Toby has created a piece of music that nearly everyone can relate to, and it’s so much more powerful because it’s been done on such a personal level. I know after I lost someone I loved, I called their phone to try and hear their voice one last time. I think we all want to. The sax is a perfect contrast, and helps express the sadness even more. And why shouldn’t there be music that expresses just the very basic, overwhelming grief, without getting us to a happy ending?

  66. Linda Rhoads
    December 6, 2009 at 8:49 am

    It’s a great song, it’s real emotion and that is what country music is suppose to be. As always Toby gives his best.

  67. Denise
    December 10, 2009 at 12:09 pm

    I heard this song for the first time today…it caught my attention enough that I stayed in my car to finish listening to it and then had to find out more about it. I lost my father less than 2 months ago…this hit home so much. I’d give anything to be able to hear his voice again. I’m not typically a TK fan, but I will be sure to get this song…it is so spot on. My father is much better off where he is, I’m the one hurting.

  68. Jenifer
    December 10, 2009 at 5:02 pm

    You know those who say that he is talking too much about crying for himself…isnt that the point of the song. I am not crying because I feel so sorry for you I’m crying for me!!! This is a good song and heart felt. When I heard it for the first time it reminded me of a good friend and how little time she has left. The whole recording, if it was me I would probably dial the old number and listen to their voice because that would be where you could actually hear instead of remember

  69. brian
    December 14, 2009 at 5:21 am

    On November 1, 2009 i lost a friend of mine to a tragic car accident. She was 19. Every time i hear this song i can’t help but think of her, tear up, but then smile. It is an incredible feeling and so hard to describe. Writing a review about a song like this is silly.

  70. angus young
    December 14, 2009 at 11:43 am

    when i first heard this song i started balling in tears after dad heard it i almost died over what he said

  71. Sydney
    December 14, 2009 at 2:44 pm

    My friend died and when i heard this song ……described me and dealing with this situation ……so thank you toby keith for writing it …..love yall and god bless

  72. Denise
    December 15, 2009 at 2:51 pm

    This song,although written for a dear friend, says perfectly how I feel about my husband. He passed on 6 years ago and I miss him ever so much. This is a GREAT song!

  73. cynthia
    December 17, 2009 at 3:07 am

    for everyone who hears this song u have to undestand the kinda person my uncle was he loved all and was a very kind person he had such a hudge heart and an even bigger smile i beleive that the song is what TK was thinking and how he felt it does not compare to what my aunt and cousin’s are feeling so i give the song 10 stars

  74. Kayla
    December 17, 2009 at 1:50 pm

    one of the things i love about country music is that its real. Theres no sugarcoating it. they tell it how it is. he wrote the song from his heart and thats how he feels and whether or not you think its depressing its life and sometimes its what people need or want to hear. this is one of those songs you write for yourslef or for someone special not for the public. i think its beautiful.

  75. bajel
    December 23, 2009 at 3:34 pm

    Thumbs up T.K You showed everybody how we treat a friend and this

  76. bajel
    December 23, 2009 at 3:37 pm

    Thumbs up T.K ,way to show your true feelings to your friend W.T God bless you

  77. Jason
    December 24, 2009 at 10:19 am

    Great song. Great meaning. Poor review.

  78. Paul W Dennis
    December 24, 2009 at 1:31 pm

    So-so song. Great Meaning. Very accurate Review

  79. COREY
    December 25, 2009 at 11:22 pm

    Crying for me….is one of TK’s best songs I have ever heard, and to be talented enough to be able to put his personal feelings into a song to share with the world is pretty amazing. Every time my kids & I get in the car they make me play the song for them over & over again….

  80. Julie
    December 26, 2009 at 11:12 pm

    Beautiful tribute.

  81. Julie H
    December 27, 2009 at 10:15 am

    I love this song. I liked the first part of the review. But I disagree with thumbs as both of mine are pointed up. Until I read this review, I wondered “why the saxaphone.” Now that I know it makes this song that much more special to those who were involved in this project. Cancer hurts so many people. Most people hear the words cancer and run away because they don’t want to deal with the problem. Others run because they don’t know what to say. Those who stay through thick and thin and the end, are usually family and a very FEW select friends who decided to be there through it all. To have someone actually address his own sorrow about a friend, well it took courage to record it and share with his fans. I wish I had done it when my classmate died at the age of 34. I may not be a song writer or much of a singer, but I would have felt better.

    Thank you so much for sharing this as it pertains to not just Wayman, but to so many who have lost loved ones to cancer or any other reason.

  82. Charlotte Williams
    December 27, 2009 at 11:26 am

    I think you are real out of line on this one. There was no need to bash Toby. He did this as tribute to someone he really cared about along with a lot of other people and some of those people, along with Wayman’s family by the way, were included in this video. Why was this negative response needed? This video was very compassionate and will be something Wayman’s friends and loved ones can keep as a tribute to him. You may need to re-evaluate yourself on your compassion for the human race.

  83. Charlotte Williams
    December 27, 2009 at 11:38 am

    Looks like the reviews say it all and I give all of them a “Thumbs Up” for Toby. Like Jon said on 11/3/09, I guess we will have to agree to disagree, “no pun intended.”

  84. stormy
    December 27, 2009 at 11:48 am

    Charlotte: Why was this negative response needed?

    So Sam was supposed to lie?

  85. Brian
    December 29, 2009 at 8:57 pm

    This review just makes me scratch my head. So the song is bad because Toby is still in grief for his friend who died? Also, it’s too depressing? I didn’t realize death was something to be overly jovial about- but hey we all deal with it differently. Should be interesting to see the song Sam writes when someone close to him dies.

  86. luckyoldsun
    December 29, 2009 at 9:56 pm

    It’s a good song. It’s completely original, very different from any song Toby’s ever done before and very different from anything else on the radio–yet it’s unmistakably Toby and yes, it’s country.

    And I’m not going to analyze what precisely Toby means in the lyrics. It’s art and it creates a good vibe. Not everything has to be taken literally.

  87. Lori
    December 30, 2009 at 10:00 am

    This is an awesome song! Sad yes..But what a wonderful tastefully written and beautiful tribute to TK’s late friend….

  88. Lori
    December 30, 2009 at 10:13 am

    ps…10 thumbs up for this song! 10 thumbs down to Sam G!

  89. Never a fan of Toby..till now
    December 31, 2009 at 5:38 am

    As a man’s man I must say that this song is a poetic lament of a loss of a great friend and companion. I hope it heals as much as it moves me deeply. I’ll buy you a beer Toby if I ever have a chance to meet up with you.

  90. Beth
    December 31, 2009 at 9:50 am

    I like the message. When my father passed away I had a man tell me,”I’m sad for us, but happy as hell for John” To me that is what Toby is trying to say. We are all sad and will be for some time, but Wayman is no longer hurting and is in paradise. Your happy for him, but still feeling the loss and the pain it causes.

  91. walter
    January 1, 2010 at 12:08 pm

    After loosing a loved one our emotion runs out of our hurt for loosing this great friend or family member. I have recently lost a grand daughter of only one year to a genetic birth defect which went undetected, your heart hurts with pain and you just feel cheated of showing your effection to this person and it comes out in this heart felt song. may GOD bless you and ease your hurt Toby!

  92. brado
    January 4, 2010 at 8:27 am

    i thought it was a really touching song. there’s always going to be people out there that hate on things just to do so, just as this author has chosen to do. bottom line, if toby lost a friend and singing this song in tribute is part of his healing process, then back off and let him sing it. hes only human like everyone else.. good song!

  93. Jay LInton
    January 4, 2010 at 9:38 pm

    I guess everyone all ready got you pretty good on this one. I’ll leave it be. You may not even be around to leave comments after that one.

  94. Jay LInton
    January 4, 2010 at 9:41 pm

    oops i was leaving a message to the idiot that wrote the article. i loved the song from the day the cd came out. i just got around to reading into where it came from and found this. Another great, meaningful and touching song as always by the man.

  95. Debbie Ashley
    January 5, 2010 at 9:13 pm

    I can understand where Toby is coming from. I lost my 19 year son suddenly to a sickness and I can identify how Toby is hurting. I would call my son’s cell phone just to hear his voice. It’s been a year and half since my son passed. People grief in all kinds of ways and I appreciate the tribute he gave to Wayman.

  96. Roxiesmom
    January 5, 2010 at 10:18 pm

    It’s not morbid. It’s a beautiful, heartfelt tribute to a dear friend. Though Wayman Tisdale is gone this wonderful tribute to him will live forever. Nobody does it from the heart better than Toby Keith.

  97. alison
    January 6, 2010 at 10:19 am

    im so sorry about what happened to your friend. The samething happened to both of my uncles

  98. Tim
    January 6, 2010 at 5:57 pm

    Great song…we have all lost much loved friends and family..this will be played many times at countless funerals..anyone ever hear the song “Friends”. Country music has always been and will always be stories about real life and real people..and this song is definitely about real life.

  99. TJ
    January 8, 2010 at 5:53 pm

    Your commentary on this song is pathetic.

    I am sure that Toby didn’t write this song for critical acclaim, but rather to mourn the loss of his friend and deal with his own grief.

    The songs run away popularity speaks volumes and further demonstrates the idiocy of your response.

  100. Debbie
    January 9, 2010 at 11:51 am

    Those that thinks country music is depressing & always sad, has miss the comcept of listening and understanding. I think so much is misunderstood about country music.
    I truly like the song and understand where Toby is coming from. Anyone else would if they lived at all.

  101. k
    January 9, 2010 at 1:43 pm

    I usually don’t post things on sites like this, but felt compelled to speak my mind this time.

    This song honors a man that meant a lot too many people, which is evident throughout the video. Toby and the friends and family of Tisdale will cherish it forever. It really irritates me that someone would actually think it is appropriate to give a song like this a “thumbs up” or a “thumbs down”. Just because a song is out there does not necessarily mean it has to be critiqued. Toby was obviously trying to pay homage to a man that meant a lot to many people and for someone to cut his song down is like driving a stake into a heart that is already aching from the loss of a friend. I find that it was very rude and uncalled for!!

    It is a heartfelt song that was written to honor someone and to help those who loved him grieve and cope with their loss. So who are we to judge the feelings of others and how those feelings are expressed through a song. Tim McGraw did the same thing with his song about his father as have many other artists. We all show our grief in different ways and should not be criticized for it! It is the type of song that will help many people after the death of a loved one during the darkest days of people.

  102. misty
    January 9, 2010 at 10:24 pm

    I really like this song,it has hit home in so many ways,I to lost a close friend this past May and I to got the news Friday morning.I was the second person to show on the scene.He wrecked a 4 wheeler in front of my house,and pasted away the next morning.This song has helped me so much.I find myself calling his number to hear his voice,I just know he would like this song.

  103. Rick
    January 11, 2010 at 11:25 pm

    I recently lost one of my best friends/brothers in a car accident on the day before thanksgiving. All of us knew eachother for most of our lives, were all 21 except for Steve who was killed, he was 23. I knew him the best out of all of us. This song was on his memorial slideshow, and it was the first time I had ever heard it, so my first time hearing this song was for my best friends slideshow..it has a special meaning to me as well. I’m not sure exactly when they released it on the radio..but I think it was very recently..and it came out at the right time.

  104. Kari
    January 12, 2010 at 3:02 pm

    I absolutely love the song. I disagree with the “thumbs down.” It’s a great way to express how he feels about his friend.

  105. Javier
    January 12, 2010 at 8:02 pm

    My older brother passed away a year ago tomorrow from cancer. “Crying” heals a heart that cancer has torn apart. Toby Keith continues to express his feelings and emotions, which often reflect the feelings of his fans. Perhaps this song doesn’t touch you today, but one day you too will lose a love one and the lyrics in this song will heal your heart too.

  106. Marla McClellan
    January 13, 2010 at 10:44 am

    In Nov. of 2009 my husbands good friend took his life. He was a great friend, father and husband .. Life is hard the economy stinks and people are struggling… We heard this song and felt like this song was written for us! What a comfort this song brings to us along with some tears.. Thank You for this song!

  107. Sam Quanz-Milton
    January 13, 2010 at 2:29 pm

    I completely dissagree over the “thunbs down”. This song is right on. When we lose someone, our tears are not for them – they are in a better place. Our tears express our grief – our broken heart at knowing we can’t see them again on this planet. Toby is doing what we all do when this happens, he is crying for himself!

  108. toby keith fan
    January 13, 2010 at 3:13 pm

    I love the song and Toby Keith. I thinks it was a beautiful thing he did. If it works for him, so what. You can’t please everybody. This was his friend, family someone he is/was very close to. I love everything about the song and the instruments. I wish more country artist would change up on the instruments like Toby did.

  109. Lucy Atkinson
    January 14, 2010 at 5:04 am

    Just started to listen to country radio, having received an internet radio for Christmas. I think this Toby Keith song really stands out; so much so that I felt compelled to research it a bit, hence my presence here! I don’t find it unduly depressing; it simply addresses the feelings of anyone who has been left behind, and acknowledges that the guy who died is where he wants to be. I think it’s musically very well constructed, I particularly like the modulation before the final verse. Best wishes to all from the UK!

  110. Green Eyes
    January 15, 2010 at 3:13 am

    You know. I don’t like that this article is frowning upon him writing something depressing showing how upset he is. I lost my fiance to suicide Feb. 2009, and although its going to be a year next month, its still very painful. “Yes, Tisdale has only been gone for a few months, so the hurt is still understandably fresh.” It doesn’t MATTER how long his friend (very good friend it seems) has been gone. Its will still hurt, and he will still miss him. Whoever this Sam Gazdziak person doesn’t need to understand. Because the people who knew Tisdale, or anyone who has ever lost someone they care about will. Thank you Toby for such an amazing song.

  111. Bella
    January 15, 2010 at 9:47 am

    I disagree, i would have rated the song thumbs up. I think Toby Keith is trying to mourn the loss of a friend and realizes Tisdale is in a better place and is happy for him but is sas to lose a dear friend.

  112. c
    January 20, 2010 at 12:49 am

    I also disagree, I thimk the song deserves a thumbs up, it’s a great song and a tribute to a good friend.

  113. Louise
    January 21, 2010 at 7:21 am

    Thank you Toby for putting such heartfelt feelings into a song. For those that don’t understand the hurt that is left in your heart when you lose a loved one should pay attention because when it happens to you, it is reminders like this that help you through. I lost a niece almost 3yrs ago in a tragic car wreck because of a drunk driver & my mother 1 year ago on New Years Eve & let me tell you time does not make it better it only makes you miss them more. They are both in my heart everyday & I still miss them just as much everyday.

  114. Kimberly
    January 21, 2010 at 1:26 pm

    It amazes me how someone can inject thumbs down on a song about losing a friend. So what if Keith is singing about himself….did you ever here about therapy? This song hits my heart to the soul….and it’s only because I lost my blue nose Pit Irish by a tragic car accident. She was my friend and she always was smiling and wagging her tail….I lost a friend. It’s about me and my feelings of lost THUMBS UP!!!!!!!!

  115. Krystal
    January 21, 2010 at 2:18 pm

    OK, I was born and raised in oklahoma and still live here to this day! Both Toby and Wayman are from Oklahoma!! I have been a long time Toby fan since i can remember. Anyone who knows me knows that. My husband and Wayman became very good friends durning his last year here on earth. It was hard for my husband, who was still getting over the lost of his grandfather, when we got the call about Wayman that Friday morning. I think this is one of Tobys best song and it was a blessing to my husband. I hope he will always keep up his good work and Wayman will be remembered by every person when they hear this song played!!!

  116. Patti
    January 22, 2010 at 6:46 am

    I love, love, love this song……I would even dare say, one of Toby Keith’s best. Country music tells it like it is and that’s why we love it. This songs is about a friend who is grieving for another friend. Those of us who has lost loved one in our life can definately relate. I don’t think it’s dark – at all!! Again, I absolutely love it and it is the ultimate compliment to his dearly departed friend….that’s love :)

  117. Shannon
    January 22, 2010 at 8:13 am

    “one of Toby Keith’s best” isn’t saying much…

  118. Leeann Ward
    January 22, 2010 at 8:47 am

    Toby has some really good songs; some really bad songs too. I’d say that the majority of them are really some where in the middle though.

  119. CAT_73
    January 22, 2010 at 3:44 pm

    (K) I have something in common with you, I also don’t usually post a comment (actually this is my first one), but this whole discussion really caught my attention.

    I am not a huge Toby Keith fan, although I have gone to one of his concert with friends, and it was actually one of the funnest concerts I have been to.

    But to move along, this song is not ONE of his best songs, IT IS HIS BEST SONG EVER! I think it is the only song he has where there is real emotion in it. I applaud Toby for having the strength to – not only – write this song, but to record it and put it out there for everyone to criticize. I think a song needs to only be heard not dissected, it either touches a part of you or it doesn’t but that doesn’t mean that it isn’t helping someone else out there. I haven’t lost anyone close to me but the poignancy and emotion of the song still touch me and I can empathize – through this song – with people who have lost someone and are in the grieving process. I hope Toby and other artist like him continue to record songs that mean something to them regardless of how viciously they are torn apart.

    The message in this song is beautiful, it acknowledges that Wayman has moved on to a better place and it also bares the singers soul for all to see, and I think a very crucial part of this song is the dual message; I’m crying for me serves two purposes to state how Toby feels because his friend is gone, and quite possibly a little envy on Toby’s part that his friend has moved on to a better place and Toby is still here and has yet to achieve that.

  120. Sarah
    January 22, 2010 at 7:25 pm

    One of my friends died on Friday and this song matches how everyone close to him feels. they played it on a powerpoint with pictures from throughout his life. he was 18 years old. he was supposed to graduate this year. my boyfriend and one of our other friends were his best friends and they hurt the most. this song is now their favorite song. it means a lot now, to whoever knew him. thanks for this song. it explains everyone feelings perfectly.

  121. Julie
    January 24, 2010 at 2:57 pm

    I think this song is amazing! It is all about losing a loved one. My dad died suddenly Jan 7, 2010 and we played this song at his funeral. My niece said she wanted it played to remind us that her grandpa (aka “Bumpy”) was in a better place and that we were just crying for ourselves because we are sad. What an awesome remnder that he is somewhere better and in no pain. I listen to this song everyday…sometimes 3 or 4 times a day just depends on how I am feeling. For some reason it makes me feel closer to my dad knowing he is happy, even though I miss him more everyday! Thanks Toby for a great song that helps people grieve and begin to heal. THUMBSUP!!

  122. Steve M.
    January 25, 2010 at 10:30 pm

    Am I in a time warp? Are we in Selma, AL in 1955? Its been my experience those who use the N word are ignorant clods who are angry that their lack of education and intelligence have blocked any chance of upward mobility.

  123. Steve M.
    January 25, 2010 at 10:54 pm

    And thank you 9513 for discarding the racist post I responded to.

  124. Rebecca
    January 25, 2010 at 11:01 pm

    Well, thank goodness that ignorant idiot’s comment is off this list…

    as for the song… TK, I have not heard anything better. Your song touched my sister and I. We are big fans of country and jazz, and hearing Dave Koz on your song was just a fresh mix. And for a sad song being given thumbs down, especially this one… where was this critic’s empathy? Sometimes, sadness lasts a little longer, and stays broken for a while… this is what this song talks about, especially about a great friend. Great songs should move people like this. Look at the amount of comments on this post. Enough said.

  125. N Frost
    January 26, 2010 at 12:09 pm

    I love the song! My husband and I cried together as we watched the video the first time.

    True friendship is hard to come by these days and it’s refreshing to see/hear a tribute to a beloved friend.

    Heck with thumbs…both hands up on this one!

    ~N Frost

    PS I LOVE THE SAX!

  126. blanchard
    January 26, 2010 at 1:13 pm

    I like many of you don’t post to these things but this song has a special place in my heart. It reflects the way I felt after losing my mother to cancer. It’s been 16 months since losing my mom and I used to call her phone everyday in the beginning to hear her voice again. I applaud TK for being able to put his feelings into a song and have it played for the world to hear.

    Bravo on a song well written TK….BRAVO!

    Blanchard

  127. Sharon Hart
    January 29, 2010 at 6:49 pm

    All country/western songs are sad. This one just happens to be about a friend and I would have sung it just as he did———with heart and compassion not only for himself but for his friend.

  128. oldharleyrider
    January 30, 2010 at 6:27 pm

    My first time on this site and probably my last. I ended up here by researching the song. Have no idea who this Sam G is but if this is a typical review of his, sombody’s not getting their money’s worth from him. He obiously has never lost a “close” friend. Or he absolutely has no feelings. Great song if you’ve ever been there before.

  129. Gino Scarsella
    February 3, 2010 at 7:50 pm

    Putting love, friendship, life and death in their proper perspective are never a bad thing. This song really portrays the love and friendship Toby had for Wayman, anyone thats had a wonderful friendship as they have had would understand. Great job Toby!

  130. Bonnie
    February 4, 2010 at 8:05 pm

    Who are we to judge how a man with an outstanding talent chooses to deal with such raw pain and sorrow..It is what it is…a beautiful tribute to another human soul…please don’t judge just enjoy..it truly is amazing.

  131. Cheryl
    February 5, 2010 at 4:17 am

    Truly a song written, played & song… straight from the heart & soul of a wonderfully gifted man… Toby Keith. True love & friendship run through this beautiful eulogy, that will play forever. Thank you for your blanket of love & warmth I feel, every time I hear this song.

  132. Patty
    February 8, 2010 at 3:36 pm

    I don’t find the song depressing at all. I think it is a wonderful tribute to a good friend, and since I’ve recently lost 2 very dear friends, I think this song puts things in perspective and was very comforting to me.

  133. TK fan
    February 10, 2010 at 6:52 pm

    Coming from a small town in Iowa, I truly believe this song couldn’t have came out at a better time. Over the past year and a half, our small community has lost the lives of 5 of our youth. All high school aged kids and not because of suicide. Things happen in life that no one can explain and I believe this is truly how most of their friends are feeling. It helps in dealing with the healing process.

  134. Cheryl
    February 12, 2010 at 8:58 am

    Truly a song written, played & sung… straight from the heart & soul of a wonderfully gifted man… Toby Keith. True love & friendship run through this beautiful eulogy, that will play forever. Thank you for your blanket of love & warmth I feel, every time I hear this song.

  135. Dave Bobson
    February 12, 2010 at 5:48 pm

    This is a good song. I strongly disagree with the review.

  136. sam (sam)
    February 12, 2010 at 7:03 pm

    The more I hear this song on radio the more I am enjoying it.

  137. Jackie
    February 13, 2010 at 12:29 pm

    Amazing Song! Good Job Keith!

  138. Brandy Wood
    February 13, 2010 at 1:22 pm

    Wow! I’m living this song,and I think its the best ever! Just today I lost my truest, bestest friend ever and this song has done so much for me. Great Job Toby!

  139. Lori
    February 15, 2010 at 10:57 am

    My dad passed away in October 2009 of cancer. He was passionate about music and also played the guitar and banjo. I love this song,even though it makes me cry everytime I hear it, because it me so much of him.

  140. Shelley
    February 16, 2010 at 2:22 pm

    What a beautiful song, great tribute to a great friend.

  141. Dustin
    February 16, 2010 at 6:34 pm

    Both my grandparents died with cancer. My mamaw died in 97 and my papaw died 08. And now my mom has it.

  142. Lynn Smith
    February 17, 2010 at 10:09 pm

    Maybe the writer of the article didn’t realize, but Wayman Tisdale died on May 15, 2009, and Toby intended to sing this at the funeral on May 21,2009, but was emotianally unable to do so. Therefore, this song was written within six days of Wayman’s death. So, as the writer says, “the hurt is still understandably fresh,” especially considering the song was written within a week of Wayman’s death, not months.

    I think the writer should have taken this into consideration before he compared this song to songs in which “the singer by the end has moved on to acceptance.” I don’t know if the writer has ever unexpectedly lost someone close, I hope he never has to experience that pain, but it’s hard to “move on to acceptance” in six days when you lose someone unexpectedly (Wayman was believed to be cancer-free and was doing quite well after the partial amputation of his leg).

    Just a thought from someone who has lost someone unexpectedly.

  143. Leah
    February 18, 2010 at 7:25 am

    At this moment in my life I am losing my closest friend to breast cancer, as we embark on the last moments of her life I have found it hard to put into words what this will do to my life. For all of us left behind it becomes about our loss, as the one we love doesn’t feel the day to day pain we do once they have passed on. I appauld this song as it has enabled me to put words to what I am feeling. My saddness is profound and that is what this song portrays, a part of life we must all endure at some point. Music is about self expression, if people feel it isn’t for them they should just turn the radio off and let the rest of us who appreciate it listen.

  144. Kelsey M
    February 19, 2010 at 4:42 pm

    ok so on different sites it says that wayman passed away from cancer..”But right now, there are two songs about suicide being played on the radio, and neither of them are as depressing as this one.: So right there it sounds suicidal…wat reallly happened? he kill himself over cancer or wat? someone please tell me cuz in the song it says, im not crying because i feel so sorry for you, im crying for me….so yes, please , someone explain :)

  145. Sam G.
    February 19, 2010 at 11:02 pm

    Kelsy, Wayman Tisdale did die of cancer. I was referring to two other songs on the radio that were dealing with suicide at the time.

  146. Sara
    February 20, 2010 at 1:35 pm

    Love the song and the sax. I loved jazz long before I loved country and I love that they were both in this sad and wonderful song. It reminds me of my stepfather who introduced me to country who we lost to cancer a few years back. Every now and the I still cry for “me” and all the things I wish he was here for.

    Great song! Xoxo

  147. jessica
    February 21, 2010 at 11:38 am

    it is the coolest song ever.even it is the sadest song

  148. SLEE
    February 21, 2010 at 11:25 pm

    I think the writer’s view that the song is depressing says a lot more about him, than Toby or the song. As someone who’s lost family members and friends to cancer, other diseases, and suicide, TK captures a bit of the initial shock and grief one goes through, beautifully. It seems to me that one would have to be either lacking the experience of losing a friend or family member, or rather disconnected from one’s feelings, to find this song depressing.

  149. Kim
    February 24, 2010 at 7:47 am

    I think this song is wonderful and beautiful. It never should have been given a thumbs up or thumbs down. That’s like critiquing someone grief. Should I give his grief a thumbs up or should I give it a thumbs down.

    If it didn’t work for you then I think you should have kept it to yourself.

    I hope if you are grieving for someone Sam G. that someone is not standing over you saying, “I don’t know Sam, I think your grieving is a little to morbid. I understand what stage of grief you’re in but still could you do something a little different then maybe I could give you thumbs up.

  150. Millie
    February 27, 2010 at 11:17 am

    My mom is right now in hospice dying. I thought it was a wonderful song, and very comforting to me. And I normally am not a big Toby Keith fan.

  151. katie
    February 27, 2010 at 4:11 pm

    that song is so true to those that lost someone real close to them like Toby did. i lost a friend almost a year ago, an that song speaks the words i feel. i dont like how she left an i didnt get to say goodbye, i had a txt ready to send to her that mornin saying lets hang out when i heard the news she was gone. but that song is a wonderful song, its very comforting to the family of those that lost someone. im very proud toby was able to get such a great song from somethig so tragic.

  152. ron clanton
    March 2, 2010 at 11:41 am

    This song is what life is all about. Everyone lives and then they die. It is depressing to loose a good friend or family member but again that is just the way it is. Great song by a really great writer and artist that knows what it’s like in the real world.

  153. Rhonda
    March 5, 2010 at 5:25 pm

    Personally i found this song so beautiful on so many levels – the artistry is excellent, the blend of their 2 styles, including those whoe knew and cared for Wayman, the personal notes such as the reference to his guitar ~ but mostly the focus. We shouldn’t feel sad for our loves who have gone before us to an eternal paradise, we should celebrate that – but those of us left behind are where the pain is and i feel that has been captured and expressed so beautifully. Bravo for expressing this so eloquently.

  154. billy bob
    March 12, 2010 at 10:13 am

    this man ROCKS

  155. Amber
    March 13, 2010 at 10:21 am

    Sam, Sam, Sam– have you EVER lost a loved one??? My mother passed away suddenly on December 28th, 2009, after being diagnosed with leukemia just one week earlier.

    For about a week before her death (during which no one knew she was going to die), I heard this song for the first time. In fact, I kept repeatedly hearing it on the radio and it kept making me cry.

    Then, when I heard the song for the first time after my Mom’s death, it was like a message sent from above for me: My Mom’s in heaven and she’s ok; She’s not in pain anymore, she’s with the angels. I’m crying for me… and my loss of an amazing, single hard working, irreplaceable Mother.

    This song is raw, real and one trip on the rollercoaster ride of grief. I actually did the same thing Toby did and called my Mom’s cell phone to hear her voice on the recording.

    Like a lot of people on here, I’m not a big Toby Keith fan, especially his newer songs but this song is a “thumbs up” all the way!!!!

    For those that felt this song wasn’t personal enough- when you lose someone you love, it’s hard to find the words to express how you personally feel. But the rawness of Toby’s voice and music make you understand the pain he’s feeling.

    Rest in Peace Wayman Tisdale and God Bless his family and loved ones. Thanks Toby.

  156. beverly
    March 17, 2010 at 8:03 am

    When I heard this song I thought you wrote it for me. I lost my husband in Nov and it give me great comfort to listen to it. How timely. Love Toby.

  157. Lonette Cappleman
    March 17, 2010 at 1:44 pm

    If you have ever lost a loved one, you will appreciate this song. I lost my husband on April 8, 2009 to cancer. Whenever I listen to this song, it brings me peace. Thanks, Toby for sharing your pain with us.

  158. Corey Spencer
    March 17, 2010 at 3:34 pm

    This just proves Toby’s song about critics writing negative reviews just so thier boss knows someone is reading them. LOL great song (both).

  159. Chris N.
    March 17, 2010 at 5:15 pm

    Yeah, that was pretty brave of a guy who makes $48 million a year to spend four minutes picking on people who (especially given the state of the publishing business) barely make a living. What a man.

  160. travis s
    March 21, 2010 at 11:37 pm

    my son dusty commited suicide 1 month ago, he was 12 years. for any of you that has lost a very close loved one as we have, you cant help but picture thier smile when the lyrics prompt you. for me thats what this song is all about.

  161. luckyoldsun
    March 22, 2010 at 1:16 am

    Chris N,
    Toby didn’t go after anyone personally in that song–just an unnamed critic.

    That song is part of what makes Toby more interesting and compelling than most country artists. He puts his heart on his sleeve there and lets us know how he really feels–even if it’s petty and a bit nasty and vindictive. It’s a lot better and more memorable than if he filled out the album with some generic cut from the usual Nashville songwriters.

  162. saxman
    March 28, 2010 at 3:51 pm

    The Sax playing was great for this song although I am a sax player myself it was still a great choice for this song

  163. Meh
    March 31, 2010 at 1:00 pm

    This song is great, makes me wonder, what is the after life like.

  164. Thomas
    March 31, 2010 at 1:30 pm

    …congratulations, you joined the biggest club on this planet today, meh.

  165. Susan
    April 19, 2010 at 3:16 am

    I have always loved Toby Keith’s music ever since his first song-“Shoulda been a cowboy”! My husband lost his dad in Nov. 2008 to throat cancer[as well as my children and my grandchildren losing their 'Papaw'], then I lost my dad on Sept. 22, 2009 to lung cancer! And now my mom has pre-cancer cells and I’m very afraid of losing her to cancer as well, so this song really hits home!! I’m thinking of getting her to watch and listen to the words, so she’ll stop thinking that her family doesn’t feel sorry for her- that we’re cryin’ for me’![My husband also lost an uncle suddenly in the fall of 2009, and also lost a brother-in-law not much longer after that] I saw the ACM awards tonight[04/18/2010]and Toby sang that song and the cameras showed Wayman’s family in the audience crying and I couldn’t help but cry too for their loss as well as my loss! As always a great song by Toby, just like “The Red, White and Blue”[Angry American], people were also quick to down that song but Toby was just being honest about his feelings!

  166. EDDIE
    April 19, 2010 at 4:26 pm

    WOW…SO MANY FEELINGS & OPINIONS ON THIS SONG. TRUE, EVERYONE IS ENTITLED TO THEIR OWN OPINION. DEATH IS NOT AN EASY THING TO ACCEPT, ESPECIALLY WHEN IT’S A LOVED ONE OR CLOSE FRIEND THAT YOU LOSE. THINGS AFFECT PEOPLE DIFFERENTLY AND THEY DEAL WITH THEM IN THEIR OWN WAY. I’M SURE TOBY HAD SO MANY EMOTIONS GOING THROUGH HIM WITH LOSING HIS FRIEND AND FOUND IT VERY DIFFICULT TO DEAL WITH IT. TOBY IS A WONDERFUL SONG WRITER & SINGER. I FEEL HE DID AN OUTSTANDING JOB WITH THIS SONG AND DISPALYING IT WITH THE HEART FELT EMOTIONS OF LOSING A LOVED ONE. I CAN UNDERSTAND WHERE THE LINE … I TEAR I COULD NOT FIND… COULD COME IN AT. SOMETIMES WE CAN BE SO HURT TO THE POINT THAT WE ARE NUMB & CAN’T FEEL ANYTHING. YOUR BRAIN HAS A TENDANCY TO WANT TO BLOCK OUT HURTFUL THINGS.UNTIL LATER, TOBY HAD A CHANCE TO TAKE EVERYTHING IN AND LET HIS FEELINGS OUT AND WITH STRONG CONVICTION AT THAT. I JUST RECENTLY LOST MY NEIGHBOR…MY FRIEND OF 12 YEARS AND I TOO WAS AT A LOSS FOR WORDS & EVEN A TEAR BECAUSE IT DIDN’T SEEM LIKE HE SHOULD BE GONE. HIS BROTHER ASKED ME IF I WOULD SPEAK AT HIS FUNERAL.
    I REPLIED…I WOULD BE HONORED. I DIDN’T KNOW OF WHAT I WAS GOING TO SAY. I HAD SO MUCH I WANTED TO SAY FROM ALL THE FEELINGS I WAS EXPERIENCING. I TRIED TO THINK OF WHAT I WANTED TO SAY TO HONOR MY FRINDS PASSING. IT WASN’T UNTIL I HEARD CRYIN’ FOR ME… THAT I WAS ABLE TO PUT INTO WORDS…A POEM FOR MY FRIEND TONY THAT PAID TRIBUTE TO HIS PASSING AND HOW HE HAD TOUCHED OUR LIVES. CALL IT CRAZY IF YOU WILL …. THIS SONG TOUCHES YOU TO THE ROOTS OF YOUR SOUL AND DEEP IN YOUR HEART. MY HAT’S OFF TO TOBY KEITH FOR AN EXCELELNT TRIBUTE TO HIS FRIENDS PASSING. I PLAYED TOBY’S SONG AT MY FRIENDS FUNERAL. I WAS OVERWHELMED AT THE RESPONSES THAT I GOT FROM HIS FAMILY & FRIENDS. EVERYONE ASKED ME WHO SANG THAT SONG & WHERE COULD THEY FIND IT.THAEY ABSOULTY FOUND THE SONG ENDEARING TO THEIR LOVED ONES PASSING & GOING HOME TO OUR FATHER IN HEAVEN.
    NOT MANY AFRICAN AMERICAN PEOPLE LISTEN TO COUNTRY MUSIC. THAT IS JUST A CULTURAL THING. THERE ARE SOME THAT DO…NOT MANY THOUGH. EVERYONE FOUND TOBY’S SONG VERY HEART FELT. MANY SAID IT WAS A TOUCH OF CLASS WITH THE SAX IN THE BACK GROUND.

    THANK YOU TOBY FOR GIVING ME THE STRENGTH TO PUT MY WORDS ON PAPER IN A POEM FOR MY FRIEND.

    ” A True Friend Til The End ”

    He lived his life here on earth
    Now he soars high above in the heavens
    Amoung the angels.

    His time with us was a blessing
    For he was truly a wonderful human being
    The life of a true friend has come to an end,
    To only just begin.

    A true friend has moved on to a beautiful place
    Where there is no hurt and no worries.

    Though we will miss him very deeply,
    He will forever be in our thoughts and our hearts
    The thoughts of his laughter, his smile, and his caring ways
    Will bring a smile to our hearts as we say farewell and god bless
    To our friend tony.

    ” A True Friend Til The End ”

    By : Eddie Manning

  167. EDDIE
    April 19, 2010 at 4:48 pm

    JUST ONE MORE THING I WANTED TO ADD. I AM GUILTY OF CALLING MY NEIGHBORS PHONE JUST TO HEAR HIS VOICE. CALLED TO DAY SO I COULD HEAR IT. IT PUT A SMILE ON MY FACE. TONY WAS A VERY HAPPY PERSON & HE MADE EVERYONE AROUND HIM HAPPY & FEEL AT PEACE WITH THEMSELVES. TONY WAS ALWAYS FULL OF LAUGHTER & SMILES. THAT IS WHAT I WILL MISS THE THE MOST. TONY ‘S PERSONALITY WAS THE KIND THAT WAS INFECTOUS AND IN A GOOD WAY. HE TOUCHED SO MANY LIVES IN MANY WAYS.TONY WAS A BLESSING TO MY LIFE AND I AM SO THANKFUL TO HAVE KNOWN HIM. I BET I HAVE PLAYED CRYIN’FOR ME A HUNDRED TIMES. SOMETHING ABOUT THE SONG HELPS ME DEAL WITH MY GRIEF. MAYBE ITS THE WAY IT DESCRIBES THE WAY I WILL MISS HIS SMILE.

  168. Fern
    August 6, 2010 at 8:11 am

    I think you are totally wrong in your thumbs down opinion. I find the song to be very sweet and real. I love the sax and the phone message. The message of the song touches my heart every time I hear it

  169. Mechelle
    August 22, 2010 at 6:15 am

    This is a once in a life time video. The very first lyrics to the end I can identify with. after losing my Dad first and than a loving sister who was also my friend its a very heavy load. But this song puts every thing in perspective. I know my tears are helping me to heal over time or should I say except that they are not coming back to this world. How inspirational watching Wayman smile through his difficult times. I am sure he is in heaven playing his guitar and shooting hoops except now he does’nt miss a beat or a hoop. To Waymans family God be with you all until you meet again. Love and prayers in Alabama.

  170. Joanne Talarico
    November 21, 2010 at 9:59 am

    Who are we to say how long a person should grieve? Toby Keith is 100% an American Country Artist in every way shape and form and can do no wrong when it comes to country music and expressing his feelings. After all isn’t that what the “RED, White, and Blue” is all about?????

  171. Angel
    January 29, 2011 at 10:04 pm

    Unless you have lost someone SO extremely close to your heart yourself you could never understand the feelings behind this song. This was written only MONTHS after the loss of Wayman…MONTHS! I lost my husband 4 YEARS ago and my granddaughter 7 YEARS ago & this song STILL expresses the way I feel after YEARS. This song is the most Wonderful song I have ever heard and describes so perfectly the feeling of losing someone SO Close and Dear to your Heart. I liked Toby’s music more when he first started, but to hear him bare his heart and soul to the world for everyone to hear has really changed my mind. I had a voice messsage saved on my cellphn from my husband for 2 years,I listened to it over & over just to hear his voice because it made him still feel SO close. When cellphones had to be upgraded for the GPS tracking the company swore that everything would download to my new phone… they were wrong. I can’t even put into words how my heart broke even more and how much that sales person regreted promising I wouldn’t lose the message,I felt I lost him twice.
    Thank You to All who have also expressed their hearts on here. But to Amber and more recently to Eddie…Thank You both from the bottom of My Heart because you truly expressed the feelings SO Beautifully. To Eddie, you have a gift, your poem is SO touching, I can’t imagine how you could have gotten the words out at your friends funeral, you are Much stronger than I could have been. I can imagine how much it meant to others, but especially this family.
    There are only 2 songs I’ve heard that express our loss and feelings so well. Thank you to Toby Keith for sharing his personal feeling with the world, & to the song by the group “Third Day”, the 1st line, “To everyone who’s lost someone they love Long before it was their time, You feel like the days you had were not enough…”, both still bring me to tears…after YEARS!! I know there are thumbs up even in HEAVEN! God Bless!

  172. Vanessa
    September 15, 2011 at 1:47 pm

    Knowing how it is to lose someone you love, I think it is amazing to hear a song that expresses the REAL way most of us feel after a loss like that. It is a very brave thing to actually voice the personal feeling that as much as you grieve for the person who is gone you are grieving more that you don’t have that person in your life anymore and you feel more sorry for yourself. It is a feeling that most of us feel but hardly anyone admits. I think it is a beautiful song and there are NO problems with it.

  173. Michael
    April 7, 2012 at 1:06 pm

    I saw the ESPN documentary on the Wayman Tisdale story and this song at the end is an incredible tribute to such a wonderful person as Wayman was. Wayman was a great big lovable teddy bear, his smile was infectious. Everytime I hear this song I have tears of sadness and joy as I think of the people I’ve lost. Truly a great song that touches to the core of so many people’s heart.

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